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"Do you know when you'll be speaking to the band?" a message reads. "I was hoping to ask if I can be their extra sister."

However, there remains a single issue: The sender also wants to be Haim's fourth member. And we're in plentiful company. Several celebrated fans have also coveted the honor.

The evidence suggests something is happening. Sisters Este, Danielle and Alana launched their career performing shows at neighborhood delis with their parents. Presently, they stand as multi-time Grammy hopefuls.

In the tradition of the most iconic bands, they're a tight-knit unit. Their videos frequently feature them walking in unison down the avenues of Los Angeles. During performances, they jam with such pure happiness you can't help but think, "I wish to be involved in that, too."

"How often on tour that audience members approached us and said, 'Seeing you perform, I picked up a bass'," remarks Alana, the youngest of the trio. "That is the greatest honor. That is recognition in itself. We've done our job if we can encourage others to start a band."

"So everyone are welcome to be the fourth part of the family."

Historic Recognition

The group have called into a break, where they're recovering after an major tour in promoting their new album, I Quit.

They're currently processing the news it's been shortlisted for a top rock honor at the Grammys – with Haim the pioneering female band ever in the running for the prize.

"I tune into the lists every year, so it sort of feels like The Truman Show when your name is announced," notes Alana. "I needed to phone my sisters to say, 'Did we just hear this correctly or am I hallucinating'?"

The importance of the honor isn't lost on the trio.

"We truly set out to make a rock album this time, so it's a significant milestone," continues Alana. "Yet we're just thankful for the pioneers that came before us."

Personal Turmoil and Laughter

The record came out of a time of transition. All three sisters were single, and the music captures that strange transitional period where you're happy to be free, but not yet ready to move on.

The themes track breakups and farewells. The sisters want love, but not the kind of love they've got. You can hear them working out in the moment who they want to be.

"I love description, yes," says Danielle. "I Quit is like a slogan. You have to make an effort in shutting out the noise and saying, 'I couldn't care less what people think'."

Refinement of Sound

That newfound resilience required a fresh approach – more organic and powerful than any of the music the band had done before.

For Danielle, who helped produce the album, that was founded on the drum sound.

"Drums are such a specific thing, and I focus so intensely about it," she emphasizes.

"'Journey of the drum sound' will be the subject of our memoir," quips Alana. "Our motto is, our albums don't start until we find the perfect drum sound."

Experiences and Collective Laughter

The trio's candor inspired the album's promotional campaign, where the sisters revealed some of their personal horror stories.

One man broke up with Este over a medical consideration. Alana recalled a story of travelling to spend New Year's Eve with someone, only to receive a friendly slap at midnight.

"Experiencing these heartbreaks, you just feel like there's no hope," notes Alana. "Therefore to be able to find humor in those stories and hear others tell you more outrageous stories, it's so amazing."

An Assured Legacy

You can clearly sense a shift in the band. Today, Haim are more certain of their position in the industry.

They're festival headliners, with chart-topping albums and an international audience.

Yet the band will always be their primary priority.

"My sisters and I have been making music since I was little," shares Alana. "There is no other path that we were meant to do. And I'm really fortunate we've reached this point and we're still kicking."